Thursday, March 21, 2013

National Single Parent Day

Who knew? Why isn't this being broadcast all over the place? Well, I can probably think of a few reasons ie. the stigma of being a single parent being one.

But that is not what we are here to talk about today! It is the joys of single parenting!

The first and most obvious is that you don't have to collaborate with anyone about anything. He wants to stay up until 9? He wants to go to karate class? I want him to eat all of his dinner? I get to make all of the choices myself. No second opinion or unanimous decision needed.

The second is you get the child all to yourself. Only one parent can go? No problem. He wants to go out? Well, it will be me that he wants to go with. I don't really share very well.

So this can be a little tiring sometimes, having to do everything yourself, but there are people around to help. My parents are great at taking him whenever I need them to and my bf helps with whatever he can. The hardest part is accepting help. Letting go a little bit is hard when you've tried so hard to keep him close.

The third is that you're child will grow up seeing a strong independent woman. I'm not saying that the child will automatically think that woman are not strong if they live in a two parent household, but I know that my child will appreciate the hard work that women do.

So, despite all the complaining that I do about being a single parent, there is a lot of joy in it. It is hard, but rewarding.

5 comments:

  1. Good post. Strong women role models are hard to come by these days. Be proud of all the hard work you do!

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  2. I was raised by a single parent (my Mum) and I'm very very thankful that she was able to do everything she could for us, her three children. :)

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  3. So glad you brought this to the fore. I'm a single parent because I'm a widow. There's no shame in being a single parent. Funny thing is I had decided in my early 20s that if there were no male hubby prospects by the time I was age 30, I would make a withdrawal from a sperm bank and raise a child on my own. The first few years were tough after my husband died but now I'm in a groove. One child has flown the coop and I get the baby all to myself. I must admit I like making some decisions all by myself while others I wish I had my hubby to reason things out. I don't have familial support but I do have friends who totally rock.

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  4. I was a single parent for four years. So hard at times, so exhausting, so lonely...but I wouldn't have traded that experience for anything.

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  5. I love your perspective on this. I have always believed that it is the quality of parenting that matters most, not exactly WHO is doing the parenting. And it sounds like you're doing a great job!

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