Tuesday, May 21, 2013

Paid Maternity Leave

Wouldn't that be great? I saved up my earned time (sick, holiday, vacation time all mixed in one) by working weekends and holidays for my entire pregnancy so I could spend as much time as possible with my baby. I worked right up until my due date, then sat at home for over a week until my baby decided to come. I'm pretty sure that I remember that my son's father only took one additional day, including the two he already got a week, so three days total. I was able to be on maternity leave for 7 weeks. I also tried saving up money so that I could stay longer, but that was used (probably) for drugs. Still a little angry about that. My point is that I was lucky. I have a good job with a good (large) company and I was able to work hard throughout my pregnancy to be able to spend some time with my baby before I was completely broke. Not every parent can do that. We need to change this policy so that our country is more in line with other countries that do provide paid maternity leave.

Wednesday, May 8, 2013

Divorce Sucks

I wrote this email to a fellow who is currently going through a divorce. I read his story through a listserve email.

It gets better. Seriously. Even though you probably don't believe me, it really does.

I've been through a divorce and although it was a different situation, as situations usually are, it was still one of the worse things that has happened to me. Ever. It was Horrible. My ex had been using drugs and neglected my son while I was at work and I found this all out from a social worker who came to my house to tell me it was the ex or my son. I made the only decision that I felt was an option, my son. 

I grieved for my lost husband. I felt as if the person I loved had died, or, more likely, that person never existed to begin with. People told me it got better. They told me that I would love again, but I did not believe them.

But it does and you do. It'll get better for you. You will fall in love again and although it won't be the same kind of love, who knows, maybe it will be better. I'm sorry you have to go through this. I know it is hard. I know that it fucking sucks. I hope that my email, along with all the others you will receive,  helps a little bit. We've experienced them, too, and lived to tell about it.

Keep your head up,

Wednesday, May 1, 2013

Reasons My Six Year Old Son Is Crying

  • I told him to turn off the video games after I let him play for an extra 30 minutes.
  • I told him that I made him a delicious dinner.
  • I said no to Dunkin Donuts.
  • I said no to Bagel World.
  • I said no to McDonald's.
  • I told him that he had to go to school.
  • I told him that I can not stay home from work.
  • I told him to go outside and get "some damn vitamin D!"
  • I told him to play with his toys.
  • I told him to brush his teeth.
  • I used the hand dryer.

Mama’s Losin’ It